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Writing With Reason

There has never been a time in my life when I haven’t wanted to write.

When my memories are panned back as far as they can possibly stretch without breaking, to before I even started my school days, I can recall trying to write by copying words I found, written on pieces of paper, and not having any inkling what all of the scrawl meant! All I knew was, it was writing. And I wanted to know how to write.

For many years thereafter, I did write, until I grew up and somehow lost myself in the real world. Not that I was happy about the real world eating me up.  I would have been quite content to permanently share my book-world with my children.

And share books with them I did, every day. Dratted school interfered. Work interfered. The realities of life flew thick and fast, and no matter how hard I tried, I couldn’t dodge the hits. I’d loved riding on the merry-go-round as a child, but the one I had become caught up on now wouldn’t stop. I couldn’t get off.

Reeling from the shock of “this is life, you can like it or lump it”, I closed my eyes, held my breath and took a massive leap into the nothingness, not knowing how or where I would land.

I’m happy to report that I did in fact survive the jump, and retreated to my safe place, a place so close to my heart it is a part of me. I went home.

The little voices inside of my head kept on urging me on; you know what you want to do, don’t just think about it, do it! My neglected garden needed urgent attention. My kitchen appeared to belong to someone else; it needed a huge dose of “Joanne-ification”.

Somewhere in the midst of becoming reacquainted with the real me, Home Life Online was born. Just one problem; I lacked the confidence to write anything. So many years had passed. What would I say?

Inspired by the need to write, although lacking confidence, I created another blog, “Memoirs of My Life”. I needed somewhere to write anonymously, with the use of a pseudonym. That could work.

And it did; it worked a treat. “Memoirs” filled me with the confidence boost I needed, enough to slowly venture out, one tiny step at a time, into a world where I now feel no fear when saying “this is me and this is what I have to say”.

I have not felt inclined to publicise “Memoirs”. After writing one particular post, however, I meekly mentioned to a new-found online friend of its existence. One beautifully worded comment left by my friend was all it took. From that day on, my confidence has soared, compared to what it used to be!

Sometimes, that is all it takes; a few encouraging words…they can mean the world to someone. Or perhaps an article, written from your own personal life’s experience, however simple, which strikes a chord with a stranger, and sets their life in a whole new positive direction.

My recent discoveries regarding writing have sent me along that particular path; writing in the hope of helping someone, anyone, be they a friend or stranger. And it’s lovely to have feedback, in the form of a comment.

And that is my message today…a few words of kindness, however simple, and even unknowingly, can change the direction of someone’s life. Be kind. 🙂

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With Purpose In Our Lives

“As far as we can discern, the sole purpose of human existence is to kindle a light in the darkness of mere being”~Carl Gustav Jung.

Today, being Sunday, I am allowing myself the indulgence of not abiding by any schedule. The main purpose to this day is to just relax.

During the month of May, there was much debate on the topic of “Purpose”, as it was the theme of the month on The Calm Space.

I wrote a guest post myself, entitled “Monte Carlo…Or Me?” in which I recalled one particular night, many years ago, when I realised, without a shadow of a doubt, my ultimate purpose for being on this earth.

Being my ultimate realisation, it seemed appropriate to make that my choice for my article, but realising at the same time the importance purpose plays in all of our lives, every single day.

I was surprised, but also enlightened to the fact that some people are concerned, almost afraid, at the idea of having to find purpose in their lives, as if it is a form of obligation. If the trumpets don’t sound at the moment of their revelation, they feel that they have somehow failed in an aspect of their lives!

The pressure of finding their ultimate purpose seemed all too much to bear for some, almost as if the word purpose is over-rated.

Perhaps being an avid reader of Abraham-Hicks books prevented me from feeling intimidated by purpose. As they point out, “You want to know your purpose. You want to feel worthy. You want to feel good about others. And when you feel anything less than any of those things, you’re not being who-you-are”.

And to me, that says it all, in a nut-shell!

As the quote from Carl Gustov Jung points out, we must kindle a light in the darkness of mere being. And if we are feeling worthy and feeling good, we will have purpose. We are being who-we-are. Our light will be kindled.

Purpose is something that I live every day of my life, beginning with the most simplistic of actions; I feed myself food each day, with the purpose of staying healthy. And I choose to eat the food I enjoy. And on it goes.

By allowing your emotions to guide you, everyone has the opportunity to live purpose-filled days, every day of their lives…no fuss, no fanfare, no sounding of trumpets!

I will let Abraham-Hicks have the final say on the subject of purpose ~

“The purpose of life is joy”.

Need I say more? 🙂